Apples to Oranges

When someone asks me for advice on how to pick one thing over another, or in the case of my players, one school over another, I tell them to make a comparison list almost every time. That way you can see how one may fair over the other. It could be a job, a major life decision or something as simple as an outfit. It is in our nature to want to compare. We subconsciously do this when we get into a new relationship. We compare our next partner to the past. It isn’t always a great thing to do. One of the worst times we do this is when we compare ourselves and our life to someone else’s. I am here to tell you, DON’T DO IT!!!!!!!

As you all know, I am on this new journey of being a speaker and author which I really know nothing about. I have never thought of myself as an entrepreneur, know little to nothing about it but I know I want to share my travel adventures with you all. I want to inspire people to live their life to the fullest. And I want to encourage you to step out of your comfort zone. Because I am in uncharted waters for myself, I have started following at other social media accounts of other women entrepreneurs to see what ideas I can gather from them, some of these women I actually know. Pretty awesome huh? And then I got caught. I caught myself going down that hole of, “Her IG is so good! Mine is nothing like that.” Or “She is so creative with her pictures. There is no way I could do that.” Even, “I can’t compete with that! How am I going to compete with that?” Ugghh!! When I realized what I was doing, I wanted to slap myself like they do in the comedy movies and say, “SNAP OUT OF IT!” Thankfully I didn’t get caught up in in too long. And I started to laugh at myself. Part of all of those thoughts ARE true. Her IG IS good. Her pictures ARE creative. And I can’t compete with that. My IG is nothing like that because it isn’t mine. There is no way I could do that because that is not what I do. And there is no way I could compete with that because I am on my own journey.

All too often we want to compare other people’s journeys with our own. And we simply can’t. It is like comparing apples to oranges. They aren’t the same. Every single individual on this earth has their OWN journey. We need to embrace our own journey and not compare it to others. My life is going to be nothing like anyone else’s because it is MINE. Sure, I can get ideas from others who are in the same business as I am, but I don’t need to compare. When I climbed Kilimanjaro, I had the same destination as 9 other hikers, but we were all on our own journey. The same happens in life. Each mom has a different journey as a mother. You don’t need to compare your path as a mother to someone else’s. And I do not need to compare my journey as an entrepreneur, speaker, author and traveler to anyone either. I know it is so much easier said than done. Remind yourself, you are on your own path and THAT is what needs to be celebrated.